We live in a society that is driven by the white picket fence, fairytale, happy-ever-after mentality that is painted in movies, books and across media. The reality of this is that it’s not always meant to be happily ever after. We meet people and enter into relationships for love or business and we immediately begin fantasizing about this being the … Read More
12 Concepts For Accepting Chaos
Chaos is defined as disorder, confusion and unpredictability. Throughout our lives, we will be met with patches of chaos and challenge that will shift our paths and cause us to re-evaluate, help us define who we are and ultimately play the lead in our evolution. There have been many times in my own life where confusion and disarray have been … Read More
Sobriety Requires Surrender
Sweet, sober surrender. It’s a constant process. It’s a consistent tug on the pride strings. It takes courage. I give things up to God, my higher power, on the regular, and then I catch myself taking them right back. One of the hardest parts of sobriety is admitting, “I don’t got this.” Surrendering to the fact that alcohol or drugs … Read More
Sobriety is a Lifestyle
If you or anyone you know has struggled with alcoholism or addiction, my guess is that moderation, or lack thereof, is the basis for those struggles. For me, I couldn’t just have a couple drinks and call it a night. It was always balls to the wall, nights that turned into sunrise, the whole bottle instead of a couple cocktails … Read More
Overcoming Shame and Guilt
I recently completed training to become a Certified Christian Life Coach. I’m going through the certification process and have already started working with a few clients on faith and spiritual development as well as sobriety mentoring. An area of study that I’ve personally spent a lot of time on is overcoming shame and guilt. This comes up in so many … Read More
Self Love Is The Beginning of All Love
Throughout my spiritual journey of finding God and living in sobriety, I’ve been presented with deep life lessons along the way. I’m convinced that life is a never-ending process of refinement, shaping, molding and transforming. A process within that process is learning what it means to love yourself, accept who you are and begin to step forth into your most … Read More
5 Realities Of Taking Action
I have been staring at a blank page for days, knowing that I need to write, but feeling somewhat paralyzed to move my fingers. I stopped taking action. I stopped writing on a consistent basis. I just completed training to be a certified life coach coupled with a hectic yet blessed travel schedule, which are just well executed excuses when … Read More
33 Things Sobriety Taught Me To Be Thankful For
Significant life change starts with a simple change of perspective and is sustained through the practice of unconditional gratitude. -Carly Benson I just got back from an amazing trip to Cabo San Lucas, where I was celebrating my commitment to major life change, exercising constant courage and the anniversary of my retirement from a deep-seeded career in alcohol and cocaine … Read More
4 Tips To Successfully Break A Habit
Today marks exactly 30 days off coffee for me. Surprisingly the first 10 days were easier than the last couple of weeks. It really got me to thinking about how we are such creatures of habit. I began to examine what worked for me in breaking this habit of coffee drinking, which, for anyone that knows me, has been that … Read More
Emotional Acceptance: The Positive Side of Negative Emotion
We are all wired with the same set of emotions. Some show theirs better than others. We are hard wired to feel, no matter what we do in this life to try not to feel things; we ultimately are made to feel. When we learn how to have emotional acceptance we begin to see the positive side of negative emotion. … Read More