How To Get Started With Sobriety

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Understanding how to get started with sobriety takes geniune perspective along with willingness to begin. It also requires brutal honesty with oneself and support from our loved ones to allow the process to happen naturally and organically.

We cannot teach someone something they are not ready to learn. We cannot experience it for them. People must go through things on their own to fully grasp their life’s lessons.

We are all unique individuals on our own paths. Some are trekking alongside each other while others are at different  points in their journey trying to catch up or slow down.

We cannot make choices and decisions for others and, really, who are we to determine what their soul needs for it’s constant evolution. All we can do is love them from a safe distance and allow the intricacies of their life to unfold. This rings true for some of us who may have people in our lives that we wish we could help.

However, there may be some of you that have been waiting for your moment to come and you have been teetering back and forth with the idea of getting sober. Perhaps, you’ve been on a journey lately of recklessness or chaos of some sort and maybe you’ve been hearing the voices of others or the whisper from within that something needs to change. But maybe you haven’t been ready or able to listen. That’s ok. I get it, my friend. I was once there too. The good news is…

All great change is preceded by chaos.

I can remember the months leading up to my decision to step into sobriety, there were many people who pulled me aside, warned me, worried for me and tried to get me to realize I had a problem. At the time, I didn’t want to hear them. I didn’t have time for that “nonsense.” I had to see it on my own. I had to get to that point on my own. Even if it was only a matter of time, it had to be on my watch.

That’s the thing with change: we can’t change other people. They have to want it for themselves. They have to see the need for it. They have to want it more than anyone else does.

I was afraid that by admitting I had a problem it would take away my freedom and maybe even my fun. But what I didn’t realize was that sobriety is more freeing than anything I was experiencing through my partying.

Freedom doesn’t come from being able to make bad choices. It comes from realizing that making better decisions and doing what you are most afraid of is what actually sets you free. It wasn’t until I stepped on the other side of my fears that my willingness showed up along with my freedom.

Transformation can only occur at the rate in which the willingness to transform is present.

My job as a sobriety coach is to come alongside people to encourage them as we work together to bring more awareness into their lives while harnessing that willingness. Next to having the will, awareness is the key to initiate and sustain any lasting change. It takes a supreme awareness of one’s thoughts, surroundings, and choices to make a real impact. All together these are what drive our default patterns and habits.

Creating life change, whether it’s sobriety or not, takes determination and hard work which are two things that are not developed through osmosis. It requires a switch in the brain and in the heart. It must become a burning desire inside  that lights a fire so bold and so bright that living under old constraints, patters and habits is no longer an option.

If you or someone you know is struggling with sobriety or is ready to make some changes, there is help available. You don’t need to white knuckle it alone. All you have to do is answer the call to live better and your teachers will show up. They always say when you are ready to learn the lesson, the teacher appears. It only takes a mustard seed of willingness and faith for life to respond to you.

If you are reading this and it is speaking to you, this is not by chance. Your spirit, intuition and the guidance that led you here is playing a role in your greater good.

You don’t meet people or stumble across messages and words on accident.

Including this one. Get in touch with me. Let’s chat. We can work together to find you resources you need to overcome your demons. Whether we work together in a coaching relationship or not, I’m always available and happy to help come up with a plan and explore all possible options.

A wise friend of mine recently reminded me that usually when someone is trying to control their drinking, partying or drug use, that’s when it’s most out of control.

Take it from me, I’m going on seven years of sobriety, you don’t have to live your life that way anymore. If you become willing, there is a beautiful, healthy and harmonious life with your name written on it that is abundantly overflowing in freedom. All you have to do is knock, and the door will open.

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